How to not be boring in text

Almost all of us have had the experience of being in a conversation where, no matter how hard we try, our thoughts keep wandering away from the person in front of us.

Nothing ignites the spark of an engaging discussion. It’s just boring.

What exactly makes someone boring?

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“Boring” is a broad, amorphous concept. Unlike a discrete trait, such as the Big Five (openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism), boredom presents a challenge to researchers aiming to reliably measure and examine the concept.

But perceiving someone as boring stems from our capacity for attention.

“We evolved to focus on the interesting, because that involved food, mates, and predators,” says personality psychologist Mark Leary, a professor emeritus at Duke University. “If something isn’t interesting, it’s probably not worth our while.

Our biology tells us to get up and do something more important.”

Leary and his colleagues have defined boredom as the “affective consequence of effortful maintenance of attention to a particular s